Sometimes semantics mean a lot.
Deconstructing oppression is not victimhood. Asking for support is not victimhood. Telling someone that “I really can’t handle trying to support to them at the moment because of my own needs” is not victimhood.
This has been said before, but l feel like the most important elements of survivorhood are self-care and resistance. Self-care can be recognizing our limits and asserting them, recognizing our needs and asserting them. Eating healthily and deliciously, gardening, taking a walk, meditating, going so a show, smoking pot, hanging out with animals, masturbating., appreciating ourselves, hiking, taking vitamins, taking our medications, talking to friends, doing schoolwork, watching the ants on the sidewalk, having rad consensual sex, identifying mushrooms in the forest, sewing, playing music, cooking. analyzing our behaviour, working out… the possibilities are endless and should always, always be focused on our needs.
Whatever I am doing for myself (obviously provided that I’m not violating anyone else) is valid and important, because I am important. Resistance can be making a zine, recognizing our needs and limits and asserting them. talking to friends, calling people out, making tinctures, playing music. political organizing, insurrecting, sewing, having rad, consensual sex, creating, hanging out with animals, educating ourselves, guerrilla art, yada. So many of these intersect because resistance and self-care go hand-in-hand.
Self-care is subversive. Our culture expects for us to not take care of our seeds in a self-aware, proactive manner. The systems of oppression thrive on our denial of our needs. Smash the state, know yourself, love yourself.
From an unknown zine. Found via Fashion Pirate
The “New Woman” and her Bicycle.
A terribly failed attempt at a degrading satirical cartoon, because (let’s face it) these ladies look fabulous.
(Found through Hark! A Vagrant)
“Listen, say yes, live in the moment, make sure you play with people who have your back, make big choices early and often. Don’t start a scene where two people are talking about jumping out of a plane. Start the scene having already jumped.
“If you are scared, look into your partner’s eyes. You will feel better.”
- Amy Poehler
(Source: samwiech)
People have suggested that this about a lack of female programmers. I don’t think it is. One doesn’t have to be female to know that if you’re going to provide your customers with the benefit of the doubt that they’re adults and will give information on where to buy condoms, beer, the names of local escort companies and “tongue in cheek” locations for hiding a dead body, you should provide information about health clinics, especially when customers know their full names and basic locations. I don’t think you need females on your programming staff to know that a person can go to an ob/gyn for birth control, not just a “birth control clinic.” I don’t think that it’s necessary to be female to know that rape is a violent crime and that a rape victim will need a hospital and/or the police before they need a “treatment center.” This isn’t just about gender. This is about something more esoteric and far far less simple to explain.